Love is such a hard thing to define. To some people it’s a feeling; to others, it’s an action. And although it can be challenging to pin down exactly what love is, its manifestations are pretty easy to identify.
Today we’ll look into some of the signs he doesn’t love you anymore. If you’re starting to notice that your relationship isn’t what it used to be, despite all your efforts, and you feel like he doesn’t care anymore, it’s perhaps time to reevaluate.
If it turns out that you are with a man who doesn’t care about you, your heart is about to be broken.
Despite that, it’s far better to be happy alone than miserable with someone who doesn’t want you in his life.
If your guy ticks the boxes on 3 or more of the signs below – he doesn’t really love you.
Here is a list of signs he isn’t in love:
1. He never gets jealous
There is no such thing as men who never get jealous. They can pretend they are not jealous but believe me, each and every one of them has that bit of possessiveness over you hiding inside. It’s just a matter of how well they are hiding it. Yet again, even if they are hiding their jealousy, you have to notice it if you pay attention to their behavior a bit more closely.
So logically, after careful observation, you’ll notice if he’s not showing any signs of jealousy at all. Well, that is really a bad sign.
If your man has no problem with you hanging with guys all the time or going out with your girlfriends without even mentioning where you should seriously start thinking about the option you won’t like.
A guy who loves a woman will always be a bit scared that someone will take her away from him. If he’s not, then maybe he wants someone to snatch you from him.
2. He compares you to other women
With any little flaw you make, he uses that as an opportunity to bring up other women, especially his ex. No man who loves his girlfriend or wife would compare them with any other; instead, he would learn to accept her flaws, while helping to make her a better person.
3. He avoids physical contact
Has it happened that somehow you cannot run into each other although you live in the same apartment? That is not a coincidence. He has learned your daily routines and schedule by now and knows when you’re coming home.
So, he makes sure he is not there when you get home. When a man stops loving you, he will try to avoid you to make you realize he wants out.
Spending time together will be something you’ll rarely experience. All in all, this is a very bad sign and you should take it seriously.
4. He doesn’t have respect for things that are important to you
Maybe you used to do things together but not anymore. He suddenly gave up on everything that interests you.
He hates your hobbies all of a sudden and he thinks they are irrelevant. If he doesn’t respect your interests, that means he thinks you are irrelevant.
He ditched your friends, too. When your relationship was a healthy one, he loved spending time with you and your friends.
Now, every time you ask him out, either by yourself or with your friends, he rejects you. He is literally breaking all the bonds he has with you.
5. He begins to tell you different types of lies
Can it get any worse? There is no need to write anything else about lying.
It’s as simple as this—if he hides things from you, he doesn’t respect you or your relationship, and he is probably finding a way to tell you that. He doesn’t want to spend time with you anymore, so he makes excuses every time you call him.
Or if he’s with you, he’ll lie his way out to go and meet someone he actually likes.
It’s just that he lacks the courage to tell you the truth, so he lies.
Eventually, you’re going to get fed up with his behavior and you’re going to leave. That’s what he wanted from the start but didn’t have the guts to do it himself.
6. He doesn’t make you a priority
He puts you at the bottom of his priorities list. If he has to choose between something he likes and you, he won’t choose you.
This means he doesn’t love you because a man who loves you would always put you first—no matter what.
If you needed his help, that man would drop everything immediately to come and rescue you if you wanted him to.
Basically, your partner is your best friend and best friends don’t treat each other like this.
7. He tries to change you
The first rule in life you have to follow is: “Stay true to yourself and never change for anyone!” If the man you’re with can’t appreciate you with all of your flaws and your virtues, you don’t need him anyway.
He fell in love with you for some reason but how his mind works is he thinks he is perfect and flawless and you have a lot to improve about yourself. So following his logic, you are the one who has to change and adapt to his wishes.
He never even considers himself as having something to do with the problems in your relationship. If you ask him, the core of the problem is you. Never let anyone persuade you to be something you’re not.
8. He puts you down, even if it’s “joking”
Do you sense that he is always finding a way to put you down? Even when you are with friends or family, he tries to humiliate you by cracking jokes at your expense.
This humiliating behavior has become kind of his thing lately. He started by saying something offensive once in a while, so okay, you think to yourself that maybe something is bothering him and you let it slide.
Sadly, he has been acting like a complete asshole a lot lately. In fact, you can’t even remember the last time he treated you with respect.
Most people would ignore this kind of behavior due to their denial, especially if he’s prone to cracking jokes, but you just know it’s something more than a joke—it’s personal.
9. He doesn’t respect your friends and family
This a classic abusive behavior. The type of man who wants to isolate you from everyone else is especially dangerous. He wants you for himself and he doesn’t want to share.
That possessive behavior is something that a man cannot control. It’s something that will slowly destroy you.
He plays the game by convincing you to stay away from your friends and family because he is all you need.
That is not loving, that is possessiveness. He is looking at you like a prize he must have. Therefore, there is zero trusts and respect in that relationship.
10. He never says “I’m sorry”
Even if he is wrong, he will never apologize to you, while on the other hand, when you mess something up and hurt his feelings, he wants an apology ASAP. Otherwise, he will put on a sour face and sulk all day.
But when he messes things up, you will never get an apology. He will just act like nothing happened.
That’s a clear sign that he doesn’t respect you because he doesn’t care whether your feelings got hurt or not, which leads to the conclusion he probably doesn’t love you at all.
11. He tells you he needs space
This is a tricky sign because it can go either way. Every relationship can only function properly if both sides respect each other’s personal space.
Sometimes, a person needs some time alone to gather their thoughts and just be by themselves. But if this justified need becomes overused, then it’s a red flag warning you that something is wrong.
If your man feels the need to be more alone than usual, either something big is on his mind, or more probably, he wants out but doesn’t know how to tell you.
Also, if his intentions are the opposite of leaving you, he will come clean about why he needs some time alone. If he wants to leave you, he will make up a vague, unclear excuse, leaving you confused.
12. It’s hard to have a good conversation
One of the biggest signs he doesn’t love you anymore is a lack of communication. This is not like ignoring you. This is much more serious and on a deeper level. When he loses interest in you, he will cut you off. He will lose the need to communicate with you in any way.
Whether it’s body language communication, verbal or just eye contact—he will break off all of these. Then, it’s time for you to realize it’s over. There’s no point in trying when you can’t even talk properly. There is no point in prolonging this already difficult time.
13. He’s easily annoyed by you
He will get angry at the slightest little thing. His tolerance level is dropping more and more each day and his fuse is getting shorter.
What was once a great relationship is slowly turning into a horror movie.
He will get more and more impatient with you from one day to the next. He will yell at you for no valid reason and he will make a fuss out of nothing.
In other words, he’s screaming he wants out! Don’t let this behavior surprise you and don’t think it’s happening to you exclusively.
Many men fall in love and love their special someone to the moon and back. But suddenly for some reason, they get distant and play tricks like this to remove you from their life.
14. He stops saying cute words or messages
You stopped being ridiculously cute. But not just that, you stopped saying things and acting as lovers do. He stopped telling you he loves you.
Even that is not a big deal because people say that actions speak louder than words but in your case, actions along with words were gone a long time ago. Among everything else, your sex life is pretty nonexistent!
15. He keeps secrets
See if this scenario rings any bells: he gets ready, takes a peek at his phone, and smiles, or someone calls him, and he goes to the other room to answer.
Moments later, he’s at the door, grabbing the doorknob, leaving you wondering where he’s going and with whom. This is not right. If you chose to live together, you have to share everything. You have to be in that relationship full-time.
Believe me, this is a big sign he’s not into you anymore.
If he doesn’t feel the need to tell you where he’s going just so you won’t worry about where he is, then he has really stopped caring about you. The time he spent with you and the feelings he had for you are in the past now.
16. He doesn’t talk about the future
He never talks about your future together which basically means that he doesn’t want you in it.
Maybe, for now, you are convenient to him and he wants you around for some reason, but that will not be long-term.
When this happens, you know that the spark that kept your relationship alive is gone. There’s no point in forcing it back to life—just let it burn out.
17. He’s not curious about your life
When a guy likes you romantically, it’s normal that he is curious about your life.
He wants to know everything about you. He wants to know what you like and what you don’t like. He wants to know how to make you happy.
In your case, your online friends know more about you than the man you’re in love with.
He is simply not interested in anything you say or do. It is natural to conclude that he wants a physical relationship rather than an emotional one or he wants out.
At the end of the day, you can feel it in your gut. If he loves you, he will make sure you know it.
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