Married people do, for many reasons, get involved with people outside of their marriage. Perhaps they are unhappy, insecure, lonely, or chronically unfaithful. For whatever reason, people stray.


While it seems that the spouse would be the one left most injured in this situation, it is often the person who chooses to date the married person who will suffer most.

The reasons why you should never date a married man (or woman) seems like a no-brainer — they are married and therefore off the market.

A vow has been made that both people need to honor, and straying from those vows just shouldn’t be an option. Married dating won't end well for neither you nor the person you're seeing. (Fact not a curse)


Unfortunately, in this world of life and love, it’s just not that simple. Love is sometimes such a weird thing.

Our hearts can be so completely blind when we fall in love. Even if we’re aware that a person is wrong for us, sometimes, no matter what we do to try and forget them, our hearts just won’t listen to us.

Yes, other people may give you some advice like, “Forget about her, there are many single women who would like to date you,” but no, our heart doesn’t understand it because it only has eyes for that particular woman, even though she’s taken.

Are you involved in an affair with a married woman? Are you completely sure that you’re aware of all the consequences that dating a married woman brings with it?

Well just see this article as a reminder and if you are not aware this article will enlighten you on the consequences of dating a married woman.


1. Religious Belief

All religions condemn acts of infidelity for both men and women. Sleeping with a married woman is adultery and should not be done by any man who wants a good life ahead. It's just like a man heaping coals of fire on his head that will finally burn him. God hates it and no matter what a woman gives you, it should never be enough for you to sin against God.




2. You are exposing yourself to danger

Dating a married woman could be too enjoyable because of the pleasure or how you think you are playing your cards well. However, serious trouble may arise when the husband comes to realize. He could take serious actions on you including physical actions and of course you'll have no one to defend you because you are wrong in the first place.




3. You will become a home breaker.

When you start making love with a married woman, she will get attracted to you more and she will see no reason to be faithful to her husband. She will start to put less effort and attention into her marriage. She will never give her husband her attention and she will care less up to the extent that her home will break.

As a man, if you don’t want to be a home breaker, you should avoid making love with married women. Instead, find yourself a woman that is not in a relationship, and then build a relationship with her.




4. You will always remain a rebound

Well, the first thing you must ask yourself if in case you’re planning to date a married man or a woman, is if you want to remain a rebound for the rest of your life? While your so-called lover has already tied a knot and maybe even has a kid, there is not a chance that he/she will trade their family for you. You will always remain a backup with who they can play around but when it comes to serious business, they won’t look to you at all.




5. They will never leave their spouse

I knew someone who reconnected with a college boyfriend via Facebook. They struck up an innocent conversation and agreed to meet the next time she was in the city for work.

She was married and He was not. Unfortunately, when they met under the clock at Grand Central Station, their college connection sparked back up immediately.

The connection was so organic and easy. She had been unhappily married for years, and He was very lonely after her divorce. 

Within days they fell in bed, within weeks they were professing their love for each other, and within a month he said she was leaving her husband for him. She was so happy. All of His dreams were coming true.

Two years later, he was still waiting for her lover to leave her husband.

His lover genuinely loved her, but there was always a reason why she couldn’t leave. Her daughter was having a hard time, her son was going off to college, the summer vacation had been planned, the holidays were approaching.

"I'll do it after that," she always promised. And she never did. Never.

There is story after story after story like this one, where the married person swears they will leave their spouse for their new lover, but they don’t.

They don’t want to hurt their children, or make a decision that has financial consequences, or disappoint extended family, or damage their reputation in the community. So, they don’t leave.

And, really, why do they need to? They have your hook, line, and sinker. You're sitting at home waiting for them, always available for support and sex. They have everything they want from you without giving up their family.

So first and foremost, know that one of the major reasons why you should never date a married man or woman is because they will never leave their spouse. Period.




6. It will never be a meaningful relationship and your life will be put on a hold

While you may dedicate your life to a married person, there is no way he/she will do the same. They might take care of you but there is no guarantee of a meaningful relationship. Your life will remain at the same point where it began and there will be no progress in your relationship.




7. Loneliness

When you date a married man or a woman, you may spend quality time together but when you really need them, they will not be there for you, as they will be tending to the needs of the real family. You will feel dejected and alone, even when you are in a relationship.




8. You aren’t the only man in her life

If you’ve really fallen in love with that woman, the thought that you aren’t the only man in her life will haunt you all the time.

You’ll ask yourself all the time whether she really does love you and if you will ever be able to have a more serious relationship; that is if she’s ever going to leave her hubby.

You won’t be able to continue seeing each other in secret anymore. You’ll want more, from her and from your relationship. You’ll be so disappointed once you ask her to leave him and she rejects that proposal.

If you love a married woman, you have to be prepared to get heartbroken.

That’s especially possible if she has children because it’ll be even more difficult for her to break up her family, even if she also really loves you.




9. She can very well cheat on you too

If ever there is a chance that they leave their spouse in order to be with you, what assurance do you have that they will remain faithful to you? The fact that your relationship began on a cheating note, you never know, they might do the same thing to you too.




10. Risk of getting infected.

You are at a higher risk of getting infected when you are making love with a married woman. This is because you won’t be the only one she’s sharing her body with and if by chance she gets contracted, it will be inevitable for you to get infected too. 

As a man, you should know it’s a wrong thing to date a woman who is already married no matter what the case might be. As long as she still has her ring on, you should not go into a relationship with her not to talk about making love together. 




11. she’s might be using you and your Emotion

If you know that she’s married and you have been seeing each other for some time already, you should be able to ask her why she is cheating on her husband.

If it’s more than some casual hookup for both of you, then you’ll also be talking about stuff from your lives. Ask her how her relationship with her husband is and ask about their marriage in general.

If you have some common friends, you should try to find out some things about her marriage from them too. But be careful, don’t give them any reasons to wonder if you two are seeing each other.

If you find out that her husband did the same to her, that he cheated on her first, then the reason why she is with you is probably to get even with him.

She’s just using you to get her revenge and even if the affair doesn’t mean anything to you, you shouldn’t allow her to use you.




12. Your family might be disappointed if they find out

Enough talking about her family, how would your family react if they found out that you’re having an affair with a married woman?

Of course, they would accept it over time because they love you but they would be disappointed at first for sure. If they are religious then you already know what their beliefs on monogamy and matrimony are.

They’ll probably never have respect for your other half, even if she divorces her husband one day to be with you only because they’ll always consider her as a cheater.




13. She might break up with you soon

If you’re dating a married woman, you should always be prepared for the breakup. Don’t fall too hard for her because you’ll definitely hurt yourself that way.

If she doesn’t have any plans to leave her husband and get a divorce, the first time she finds out that someone knows about your affair, she’ll leave you. She probably won’t risk losing her family because of you, no matter how much you really mean to her. You must know that she would pick her children over you at any time.


Note

If you are involved in any form of extramarital affair It’s probably best for you to end that affair and save yourself from getting heartbroken in the end.


Thank You for reading this article, hope you have learned one or two things from it.

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